I remember youneedacat, who is a pretty famous disability blogger on here who I really respected, once reblogged a post that said “if someone ever calls the police on someone with BPD, I assume they just straight up hate mentally ill people.” And someone else reblogged it and said “they probably just want them to die”.
And what a crazy abusive mindset that is. Because I once called the police on my abusive ex who had BPD because he was being violent, and I didn’t want to die? Like that’s why I did it? Because I didn’t want to die? Not because I was all, “oh, I’ve been in an abusive relationship for a year and my boyfriend is threatening me, NOW I can begin my evil plan?”
Seriously, what the fuck was I supposed to do? I was in actual danger. If I could possibly have talked him out of it, don’t you think I would have? Do people even know how abusive relationships work? Blanket statements like that just switch the danger from the mentally ill to domestic violence victims.